I Did An Uncrossing Spell and It Worked — But I Made One Major Mistake Along The Way

By Amber C. Snider

A personal journey into the power of uncrossing and why you should always remember to do one thing after casting your spell.

Photo by Alexander Krivitskiy | Unsplash

Many, many moons ago at Enchantments, I remember discussing the concept of Uncrossing spells with the owner/head witch, Stacy. She remarked on how an Uncrossing spell helps remove blocks and anything that is no longer serving us and our higher purpose. It clears away the cobwebs and paves the way for new beginnings. Essentially, an uncrossing is about removal, stripping away, releasing, cleansing. Just as we clean our physical bodies with soap and water, we must also take time to cleanse our spiritual bodies, as well. 

But just like how any good scrub down session in the bathtub (or what some folks call the “everything shower”) can leave your skin dry and sometimes irritated, it's wise to follow-up all that washing with a balm, a lotion of sorts, to replenish what was lost. The same goes for magic, especially when it comes to uncrossing: afterwards, you should follow it up with a new manifestation, something you’d like to bring into your life next to fill the space you cleared away. I’ve known this to be true for quite some time, but over the years, even these seemingly basic lessons can get lost in the chaos. 

A few months ago, I found myself in a whirlwind romance, like a lightning bolt out of nowhere, and it was intoxicatingly fun for a while. But soon, the burgeoning of love turned chaotic, causing more hurt than pleasure, lacking a foundation for any real growth for a mature love. Soon, the yellow flags turned crimson red and I could no longer turn away from the glaring fact that this was not the person for me. One particularly confusing night, I did an Uncrossing spell for clarity, to help clear away that which no longer served me, and since one’s Spirit Guides and Higher Power tend to know what’s best, I accepted that whatever comes will come, and that it will be for the best. 

Soon after the spell had been cast, the person in question was gone from my life, leaving behind a messy trail in his wake, like a glittering road after a parade, filled with metaphoric shards, trash, empty words, and discarded (red) flags. I was free again. But in the aftermath, I had forgotten an important lesson I had learned so many years before: that one must follow-up this kind of necessary release with a new manifestation, something positive like healing, abundance, self-love, or peace. 

Shortly after the Universe had swiftly answered my call, over the next few weeks I found myself depleted, exhausted, and zapped of, well, joy. And this is why after an uncrossing, one must work towards filling an empty space/release with something positive, lest it be filled up by whatever’s floating around. Vestiges of the former lover’s “drama” kept popping up in my life, trying to reel me back into his cycle of messiness. Perhaps, the spell wasn’t complete after all. 

I decided to tap my friend and fellow witch Marisabel for insight into how she deals with uncrossing spells and the aftermath of getting exactly what you want. 
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“Uncrossing is a healing process for both the spirit and the mind, but not all uncrossings arrive in the same way. Sometimes they’re defensive, meant to shield you from further harm and tackle slander, envy, or the evil eye,” says long-time Enchantments witch Marisabel Santiago and founder of Sorcely. “Other times they’re cleansing, helping to dissolve the places where my spirit feels stuck or blocked. What I’ve learned is that the work of uncrossing can be just as tiring as scrubbing down an apartment or sitting through therapy. It’s necessary, but a lot. You cleanse, you heal and then you redirect.”

That was the problem: I didn’t redirect my energies — my sacred, powerful, magical energies — and channel them into something higher. No wonder I was feeling fatigued and a bit lost. I had to reclaim my magic. And the redirecting aspect is just as important as the uncrossing itself: “I believe we only truly overcome a crossed condition when we can find our way back to our purpose, back to what restores our alignment with faith,” says Santiago. 

So what can one do after an Uncrossing spell to restore joy, redirect energies, and renew a sense of awe and wonder? “Sweetening spells are great because they welcome back the love, clarity, and happiness that crossed conditions can strip from us,” Santiago recommends. Burning yellow candles and happiness kits, sun baths, washing your floors with orange water.”

Simply getting out into nature more and reconnecting with the earth can also do the trick, but in terms of candle spells, here are a few that are great for invoking abundance, love, and healing (and also my personal favorites): Crystal Healing, Empress, Venus, Love Healing, and the Sea Priestess candles. Also, if you’re serious about a new self-love empowerment journey, there’s also the Empowerment Kit, which contains a sacred Goddess oil blend, hand-carved candles, and one of my favorite books on the planet, Women Who Run With the Wolves. 

So which follow-up spell will I be doing? That, my friends, is only for me and my spirit guides to know. A witch never reveals her spells before they’re worked. It’s my hope, however, that my "mistake" will help you in your own magical journey, in your spell work, in your healing, towards a more transcendent, joyous, and fruitful life. As it is said, so it shall be. Blessings. 
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​You can read more of Amber C. Snider’s work in her new book Wonderment: An Eclectic Guide To Awakening Your Divine Gifts and Inherent Potential (Llewellyn, Feb 2025), which helps you uncover the elusive spark that permeates all things, awaken your psychic senses, and tap into your creativity with the help of nature, magic, and the spirit world. Signed copies are also available here at Enchantments. 

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​Amber C. Snider is an author, journalist, and senior lecturer with bylines in the NYT, HuffPost, Teen Vogue, Fodor’s, Harper’s Bazaar, Atmos, and many more at her website here. She’s also the editor-in-chief of Enchantments, a digital publication she created and designed with the head witch of the namesake shop located in New York City. ​

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